Before Your Wife Submits Herself to You

Hurray!!

It’s my first post as a married woman???????? and mehn, marriage is truly a beautiful thing!!????????

Honestly, I never intended to post this today. I’ll post what I planned to post today next week!

First, I’m just a newlywed and may not be considered someone with ’a lot of experience’ on marriage to teach others – yet.

But hey, experience alone isn’t the real deal here because I know a bunch of married people who are having the wrong experience. Also, aren’t we all gleaning our knowledge of God’s will on marriage from someone who did not know what it feels like to be with a woman?

So, here goes my word for married men (and men intending to marry):

If you know what comes upon you when the scriptures admonish your wife to submit to you, you’ll ask God for help daily.

Every woman is mandated to submit herself to her husband and will be judged disobedient and irreverent if she doesn’t.

What if a man does not know what he is doing? What if he cannot make wise decisions? Shouldn’t a more intelligent woman disobey and do the right thing?

Sorry, sis, you can’t. That’s why you must ensure that man is someone you can be subject to before you say, ‘I do.’

Over to the men.

I know what submission can do to your ego.

I know how manly you feel when your wife listens to you, honors you, and even worships the ground you walk on.

But beyond that, I want to show you what the scriptures mean when they commanded your wife to submit to you.

Right at the tail of the instruction to wives to submit to their husbands is the instruction for men to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Ephesians 5:27-29

What do these imply?

It Is Your Responsibility To Make Her Better Than You Met Her.

If you expect your wife to submit herself to you, you must be ready (with all you have) to make her better in every aspect of life. In fact, I’m saying this, and you can quote me anywhere! There should never be a day in your life as a husband in which your wife’s status falls short of what she was as a single woman!

But first, your priority as a believing husband is to ensure that your wife conforms to the person of Christ – this is the bedrock of God’s purpose for marriage. Your wife should never get so overwhelmed by wife duties that her relationship with God starts to suffer. If this happens, it means your priorities as a husband have shifted.

If There’s Ever Any Need for One To Die For the Other, You’re to Die for Her.

I know, right. This sounds like what a feminist would say. But blame the scriptures, not me????‍♀️. Christ gave Himself for the church, and your wife submits herself to you because you are going to replicate Christ in your marriage.

And if you will make an excellent replica, you must go all out for your wife. That’s why you are her provider, protector, and covering. If anything’s coming for her, it has to go through you first!

You Cannot Afford to Lose Touch with the Lord.

When a wife submits herself to you, there’s a massive responsibility on your shoulders – to never joke with your relationship with God.

You know why?

First, I need you to note that your love is to be ‘as’ Christ loved the church, not ‘like’ Christ loved the church. How can you replicate the love of someone you are not in touch with?

Also, when your wife submits herself to you, you become the lead decision-maker. But that won’t be because you’re more macho and can beat her into submission if she disagrees.

You also do not become the lead decision-maker because you are more intelligent or prosperous than your wife. Not at all.

Your say would be final because you are the priest, sir! What do priests do?

When it comes to your family affair, you are supposed to be the middleman between God and your family!

So, that means your say is to be final, as the husband, because you get that say from God! Not your emotions! And definitely not from your desire to lord over your wife!

In a nutshell, what it means for your wife to submit to you is that you need to constantly be in a position that allows you to hear and communicate with God clearly!!

And that, my brother, is enough reason to lean on the help of the Holy Spirit.

I firmly believe you now fully understand what is upon you when you have a woman obeying God’s Word by submitting herself to you.