Unleash your femininity as a Christian? Isn’t femininity merely a cultural construct?
Absolutely not!
Femininity is not merely a cultural trend; it is a woman’s God-given posture from which she can lean into the fullness of her strength and uniqueness. When you unleash your feminine energy, you effortlessly align with your highest potential as a woman.
No. Femininity is not a weakness. In my opinion, it is even one of the natural advantages God has allocated to us as women.
And yes, God wants us to perpetually lean into our femininity. Why do you think He tells husbands in I Peter 3:7 to treat their wives with tenderness, viewing them as feminine partners who deserve to be honored, for they are co-heirs with you of the “divine grace of life,” so that nothing will hinder your prayers?
Do you see that God did not only acknowledge the validity of our femininity, but He also tells the man the gravity of the consequence of not recognizing and treating us in that light?
Now, tell me. If God does not take your femininity lightly, why should you not learn practical ways to unleash your femininity as a Christian woman?
Also, note that unleashing your feminine energy empowers you to better walk in your purpose. It can also foster your relationships so that you can receive the grace and honor you deserve.
So, in celebration of International Women’s Day today, here are practical ways you can unleash your femininity as a Christian woman and be the best of who God has created you to be!
C’mon, let’s dive right in!
Own Your God-Given Identity with Confidence
Where most people get it wrong with unleashing their femininity is that they tend to focus only on outward appearances and superficial behavior. Doing those alone may not bring the lasting impact of consistently leaning into your femininity.
But when you focus on doing the work from the inside out, you create something long-lasting that will eventually become an automated flow in your life.
So, to unleash your femininity, begin by owning your God-given identity. Who has God called you? Who has He made you in Christ? What potentials, gifts, and talents has He given you? Find them out and wear them unapologetically like a crown!
Remember that discovering your identity in God begins with submitting to God and nurturing your relationship with Him. When you discover that identity alongside your purpose, walk in it with bold conviction, and always ensure that your actions align with them.
For starters, here’s who God says you are in 1 Peter 2:9: a chosen woman, a royal priesthood, a holy woman, a woman who belongs to God… regardless of who society tries to pressure you into thinking you are. This is true femininity!!
Cultivate a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
Another way to unleash your femininity as a Christian woman is to cultivate a gentle and quiet spirit.
It is pretty sad that the world perceives gentleness as a weakness. But I promise you, it is not!
Having a gentle and quiet spirit means you dwell in a state of perpetual peace so much so that nothing shakes you. You do not worry or panic unnecessarily and you’re always in charge of your emotions and responses.
You can be all these and still be the strongest woman in the room!
Think about Queen Esther in the Bible. See how she dealt with the issue with Haman with such gentleness that it gave her so much strength.
A woman with a gentle and quiet spirit is a wise woman with commendable emotional intelligence who navigates her relationship with others with love, compassion, and empathy!
Where to start?
Pray. Ask God to help you express gentleness. It is an expression of the Spirit of God that is already in you as a Christian.
Then, start to understand and control your emotions so you’re not caught always acting according to what you feel. You can read this blog to learn the different things your emotions could be communicating to you.
Other habits you can cultivate are listening more, speaking less, and being quick to identify with other people’s pain.
Prioritize Self-Care as a Form of Stewardship
Yep. You read right.
Prioritizing self-care is a way to unleash your femininity because your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit… you have to honor God with your body.
And when I say self-care, I mean nourishing your spirit, soul, and body! This means taking care of your emotional, physical, and spiritual health. How can you keep up with all that wisdom you carry if you are malnourished?
So, think about:
- Keeping your fellowship with God and other Christians alive
- Going for regular health checkups.
- Keeping your relationships drama-free and opting out of perpetually toxic ones.
- Eating balanced meals, sleeping properly, and exercising regularly.
- Wearing clothes that complement your physique without trading your dignity. Remember how highly God esteems you.
- Looking and smelling like royalty all the time.
- Taking time to relax and give yourself palace-grade treatment.
When you make a habit of nurturing yourself, you’ll see that there’s nothing selfish about self-care. Instead, you’ll understand that it is a form of stewardship – taking care of this vessel God has given you to exist on this side of eternity.
Speak with Wisdom and Grace
Femininity is expressed in proper and elegant communication, not by nagging or manipulation. So, you can also unleash your femininity by cultivating the habit of speaking with grace and wisdom.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
Proverbs 31:26
As a woman, your words have the power to uplift or destroy people. But you’re a woman of love and compassion, you want your words to uplift and not bring down people.
To speak with grace and wisdom, work towards:
- Thinking through your responses before saying them.
- Being courteous and polite when you communicate with others.
- Infusing elegance into your speech by speaking at a slow, comfortable pace.
- Always choose to listen to what people are saying and what they aren’t saying.
- Always speak from a place of purpose and love.
- Work on your tone and delivery so that you’re always on the calm and composed side rather than being loud and harsh.
Lean into Your God-Given Intuition (Discernment)
This step is often overlooked by a lot of women, but there is a unique sense of awareness God has placed in every woman.
This sense of awareness gives you a naturally heightened intuition that allows you to perceive things and people, even from afar.
Now, pair this intuition with discernment by the Holy Spirit, and you’ll become a powerhouse your man (and everyone around you) would never want to let go of.
Nurture Meaningful Relationships
A feminine woman does not accommodate drama and toxicity!
You know why?
Femininity only thrives in an environment of love and connection.
So, to keep your feminine energy thriving, surround yourself with healthy, meaningful relationships that help you get better at being the royalty you are.
Be intentional about the people you give access to your life. You don’t want people coming to ruffle you up or cause you to live a graceless, classless life. Instead, you want to have relationships that nurture you and give you more room to express your gentle love.
Conclusion
Don’t worry if your life currently looks like you’re still very far from ever unleashing your femininity. The journey of a thousand miles will always begin with one step. So, you can take your first step today towards living in the fullness of who God created you to be as a woman.
