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If the question ‘Am I ready for marriage’ has been on your mind for any reason, this quiz will bring you clarity. Whether you are already in a relationship or about to get into one, this marriage readiness quiz will help you figure out your readiness for marriage.

The quiz has eight (8) sections, each addressing the different areas that make up a healthy marriage relationship.

There are so many dynamics to marriage. Unfortunately, not many people are able to figure out these dynamics to have their desired experience in marriage.

It also breaks my heart to see the rate at which married couples are getting divorced today - partly because people go in unprepared. So, I have created this marriage readiness quiz you escape the calamity that comes from getting into marriage unprepared.

This am I ready for marriage quiz will not only help you ascertain your readiness for marriage. It will also open your eyes to areas you need to understand and work on to be your best self and have a healthy marital relationship.

And if you are already married, taking this marriage readiness quiz will open you up to insights that can help you improve the intimacy and dynamics in your marriage.

I don’t want you to rush to get a result you already have in mind. What we want to do is assess where you currently are and how good it is for sustaining a healthy, fulfilling marriage.

You really do want to know if you are ready for marriage, right?

So, kindly answer this marriage readiness quiz as honestly as you can. At the end of the day, what we want to do is equip you to have the best marriage possible. So do not miss the opportunity to fill any gap that may exist in your readiness for marriage.

NB: This quiz is faith-based, but you can skip the faith-related questions if you feel they do not apply to you. But hey, they should apply to you because marriage is bigger than us humans. How can we possibly get the best out of marriage if we do not do it according to the plan of the One who created marriage and us!

Here you go!

How far along are you on your journey to self-discovery?

There are still some parts of me I am yet to uncover.

I have not really made an effort to embark on the journey of self-discovery.

Yes, I am well on my way to self-discovery, and I understand my proclivities to a large extent.

I have made some effort to discover who I am, but I haven’t made much progress.

Have you discovered the reason for which you are on the earth?

Yes, I have discovered and am actively walking in my purpose.

I have been trying to find out about that, but no progress so far.

Just a little. I only have an idea but I am not walking in it.

No, I don’t know what it is.

Do you understand how marriage fits into your life’s purpose?

I haven’t figured that out yet.

Yes. I also understand the roles my spouse and our union will play in helping me fulfill my purpose.

I’m working towards that already, even though I haven’t made much progress.

I believe marriage and purpose should be two different things.

How comfortable are you with who you are as an individual?

Comfortable but not very thrilled with who I am.

Not really. There are some things I wish I could change.

I find it hard to appreciate who I am.

I love myself!

Have you been able to identify and address your personal strengths and weaknesses?

Not at all. I don’t even know what they are.

Yes, but I think I’m still a work in progress.

I just discovered those.

Yes, to a great extent.

1 out of 16

How committed are you to continuous personal development?

I am still learning to invest in my growth.

Not too committed.

I don’t know much about personal development.

I am very much committed to my personal development. I invest in it regularly, and I have a routine.

Do you understand your core values?

A little.

Yes, I do. But I find it hard to live by them.

What are core values?

Yes. Everything I do is anchored on my core values.

Do you consider yourself whole and properly rooted in your identity?

I often question my identity whenever I have issues with the people in my life.

I sometimes need friends or a relationship to feel whole or complete.

I believe I am whole, but sometimes I doubt myself when I do not have the validation of others.

Yes, I have taken deliberate steps to ground myself in my identity, irrespective of what happens in my life.

How would you generally describe your life as a single with respect to your desire to be married?

I am happy and satisfied being single, but being married has advantages.

I always feel like my life will only be better and complete when I am married or in a relationship.

Singlehood is not a good thing at all. I am tired of being single.

I love the dynamics of my life as a single person. I hope to continue them in marriage.

Which of these are you likely to do to make your spouse happy?

Compromise a little on my core values.

Change a pattern of behavior.

Change something about my physical makeup.

Change my mindset about something.

2 out of 16

Are you currently upset at someone who hurt you in the past?

I still remember the incident vividly, and I get upset whenever I talk about it.

No. I have let go of every hurt.

Yes, I’m not sure I can forgive them for what they did to me.

Maybe, but I no longer feel as hurt as I was when the incident occurred.

Have you resolved past traumas or emotional baggage?

Working on it.

Yes, I have, and I know not to let the happenings of the past affect my future.

I don’t have any past traumas.

I don’t know anything about those.

How effectively have you learned to manage your emotions?

Perfectly. I know how to get my emotions under control.

Pretty effectively.

I can manage my emotions to a large extent.

Ummm… I always act based on what I feel.

How do you vent when angry, upset, disappointed, or betrayed?

I’ll walk up to my offender and tell them how I feel.

I shout and sometimes break stuff to let them know how hurt I am.

I basically keep to myself and avoid my offender.

I cry and often hurt myself during emotional outbursts.

How well do you love being by yourself?

I dread being alone. That’s one of the reasons I want to get married.

Oh, I love my company so much that I have to remind myself to enjoy other people’s company most times.

I get bored whenever I have to be alone so I prefer being around others.

I don’t know how I feel being with myself, but it’s not a good feeling.

Are you prepared to support your partner emotionally?

A little. Although I can sometimes be emotionally unavailable.

Well, I don’t know what it means to support someone emotionally.

Not really. I believe they should be mature enough to be emotionally independent.

Yes, I am empathic and can readily understand what my partner feels and support them as needed.

3 out of 16

How well can you express love and affection to your partner?

Just a little. I’d rather do something to show my love than say or express love to my partner.

Not at all. I prefer doing that in private.

I know how to let people know I love them.

My partner should know I love them whether I express it or not.

Will you be happy to marry someone like you?

Not really. I’m still dealing with some stuff. So, someone better than I am.

I’m not so sure I can marry someone like myself.

Absolutely not! I have some flaws even I wouldn’t want to deal with.

Yes, I’d be happy to marry someone like me.

How do you typically handle abuse and toxic relationships?

I’m not sure I can recognize when a relationship is toxic or abusive.

I don’t tolerate abuse in any relationship. I leave as soon as possible.

Sometimes, I try to talk things out with the other person.

I don’t like to offend people, so I always apologize and try to make the other person happy.

Which of these sounds like predominant thoughts you hold about marriage and the opposite sex?

Marriage is beautiful, but you have to put in the required work.

Marriage is based on luck, so I don’t have high expectations.

I don’t have any thoughts. I am ready to accept and work through anything I see in marriage.

People of the opposite sex cannot truly be trusted.

How will you rate your ability to invest quality time and effort into creating meaningful connections with others?

I only connect with other people (including friends) when I have the time.

I deliberately make time to reach out to people and connect with them.

I think it is safe to wait for others to make the first move.

I’ve tried to create meaningful connections in the past and nothing worked.

4 out of 16

Do you know what your love languages are?

I don’t think love languages matter in marriage. Life is too full of challenges for that.

Yes, I do.

I think they change from time to time.

No, I don’t.

Do you know how to communicate openly and honestly?

Honestly, I prefer to keep to myself and let my actions do the talking.

Not much. I often lag in communicating honestly.

Sometimes.

Yes, nothing beats open and honest communication.

How well do you practice being fully present in conversations?

I have made a habit of listening so well during conversations that I can even hear what the other person isn’t saying.

Sometimes, my thoughts wander off during conversations.

I think it is important that the other person understands my point of view first.

I have a pretty hard time paying attention to conversations.

How comfortable are you with being emotionally vulnerable with your partner?

I’m open and comfortable expressing my emotions and fears.

I’m selective about what I share with anyone.

I find it a bit difficult to open up emotionally and tend to keep things to myself.

I don’t think it is safe to be vulnerable with anyone; you could get hurt.

How would you describe your ability to listen empathetically to your partner, especially when they express opinions that differ from yours?

I will let them know what I think, too. I hate being oppressed.

I will stay quiet and try to understand what they mean.

I might feel bad about it.

I think I might flare up.

5 out of 16

How would you handle situations where you feel hurt or misunderstood by your partner?

I will speak to someone else about it.

I will immediately let them know how hurt their actions made me feel so that my grievance does not build up.

I will keep to myself and let them be.

I will find ways to hurt them back. They’ll understand me better when they feel the hurt I felt.

How would you likely manage personal insecurities within your marriage?

I’ll be vulnerable enough so that I can partner with my spouse to resolve them.

I’ll simply try to deal with them myself.

I’ll hide my insecurities. My spouse does not need to see them.

I honestly don’t know what I’d do.

What will you do when you want your partner to understand something you’ve always complained about?

I’ll probably cry or yell to make them see things my way.

I’ll give them the silent treatment until they get it.

I’ll tell someone else they respect to speak to them.

I’ll keep talking about that thing until they listen.

Generally, what’s usually your overall goal when you communicate with others?

To see things from the other person’s perspective.

To reach a mutual understanding.

To be heard.

Just to talk, I guess.

6 out of 16

How well do you currently forgive the people around you when they hurt you?

Pretty well. I’ve learned to let go easily.

I don’t bother about forgiveness; I cut off the relationship.

Forgiveness is hard, but I try as much as possible.

I don’t forgive easily.

How do you typically respond when faced with a disagreement about a deeply rooted issue (e.g., values, family, finances)?

My partner should accept me as I am, so I’ll stand my ground on what I believe.

I’ll simply go with what my partner thinks.

I’ll seek to have a vulnerable conversation to resolve it, even if we both need to make compromises.

It will be best to avoid such topics so as not to raise problems.

How capable of forgiving and letting go of grudges are you?

I have learned that people will always be people, and I must remember to accommodate others’ shortcomings.

I am learning to let go.

Grudges are a great way to teach people a lesson.

Not much. I don’t forgive easily; people should learn not to hurt others.

Can you discuss difficult topics without becoming defensive?

I have learned that the best way to approach some topics is to hear the other person out first.

Sometimes.

I am working on this.

Why would I not be able to defend something I strongly believe?

Who do you believe should apologize first during a relationship conflict?

The person who is in the wrong should be the one to apologize.

I find it difficult to apologize, even if I know I’m wrong.

Peace is important to me, and I may not mind reaching for peace, even if I am right.

My partner should always apologize to me.

Have you figured out how to practice forgiveness for your marriage?

I can only forgive an offense once. The second hurt has to be deliberate and is unforgivable.

Not really; I will figure that out when I get married.

Yes, I have.

Somehow. Although I still find it hard to forgive.

7 out of 16

Which of these conflict resolution methods resonates well with you?

Stand on my right, express my emotions, and wait for my partner to understand things from my perspective.

Sit my spouse down and talk to them from my heart.

Talk to someone else immediately I have a conflict with my spouse.

I’d avoid trouble and hope things will die down by themselves.

When conflict arises in your marriage, what will your stance likely be?

I will see conflict as an indication that the marriage is nearing its end.

I see conflict as something that we must avoid at all costs.

I’d see my partner as a team member and the issue as the enemy we would fight together.

I will likely see conflict as my partner trying to attack me.

How willing are you to seek opportunities to learn about and understand your partner’s changing desires and boundaries?

I believe conflicts can show me my partner’s desires at any time so I can meet them where they are.

Not really; I’m not sure I’m willing to do all that work.

I think I will try to keep up with that.

I think they should verbally let me know when their desires and boundaries have changed.

How would you react if your partner disagreed with your views or beliefs?

I’d feel upset and would find it hard to respect their view.

I’d try to convince them to see things my way.

I would respect their opinion and try to calmly discuss it.

I honestly don’t know how I’d feel.

When you disagree with your spouse, how important would it be for you to have the last word?

It’s not about winning; I'd want to reach a mutual understanding.

I'd need to explain my side and be understood, but I don’t mind if we don’t agree.

It’s important for me to be right and make sure my point is heard.

I’d let it be if my partner insists.

8 out of 16

Have you established a stable income source?

No, I am hoping to get a spouse who would take care of me.

I am really struggling with my finances at the time.

I am just starting out financially. But I am putting in the work to improve my financial literacy.

To a reasonable extent.

Are you prepared to handle finances with transparency with your partner?

Not at all. My money remains my money and my partner should have no business in it.

Absolutely. I believe in 100% transparency when it comes to our finances.

To an extent. But I don’t have to tell them about every income of mine.

Not quite, as long as we are both meeting the financial needs at home.

How do you currently handle financial disagreements with family or close friends?

I don’t really have many financial disagreements because I let others handle money matters.

I try my best to avoid financial conflicts and let things slide.

I find that I usually get frustrated and defensive when money issues come up.

I communicate my grievances openly and seek a fair solution.

What financial habits are you likely to carry into your marriage?

I have some financial awareness but am still learning to manage money better.

Strong budgeting skills, disciplined saving, and planned spending.

I’m not so sure—I haven’t thought much about financial habits.

Ummm… I tend to spend first and figure things out much later.

When you think about combining bank accounts with your partner, how does it make you feel?

Well, we can do without sharing accounts, can’t we?

I work hard for my money. I’m not sure I can put anyone in control of it.

That sounds scary.

I think I am willing to have a combined account with my spouse.

9 out of 16

Who do you think should shoulder the financial responsibilities in a marriage?

I think the person who earns more should be responsible for the financial needs of a marriage.

It is the man’s responsibility to provide for the home, but nothing wrong with the woman doing her best too.

There’s nothing wrong with both parties contributing equally to sustain the home.

I believe the man should shoulder the financial responsibilities.

What are you likely to do if your spouse gets unemployed?

The marriage might suffer until they get a job. The bills won’t pay themselves.

I’ll push them hard until they find another job.

I’ll shoulder as much as I can until they are employed again.

I don’t know about unemployment; that’s why I’d rather marry an entrepreneur.

What is your predominant mindset about money?

I believe my money matters should be kept a secret from my partner so they don’t demand so much.

I believe money is the root of evil. Just work hard to pay your bills.

I believe money is pretty hard to make and must be cherished above all.

I believe I can easily make money, so I am pretty generous.

Are you willing to share financial goals with your spouse?

Not really.

Maybe, if it ever comes up.

My finances are private to me. My spouse can plan whatever they want with theirs.

Absolutely. It’s one of the first few things we would discuss.

If your spouse has a different financial philosophy than you, how would you handle it?

I will let them handle the finances while I focus on other things.

I will simply avoid discussing finances with them and hope for the best.

We’ll have an open discussion and find a compromise that aligns with our goals.

I will stand by my financial habits and hope they eventually agree with me.

10 out of 16

Do you believe you can respect your partner’s individuality and autonomy?

Yes, I need my partner to understand and enjoy their individuality as I would.

Nope. I believe we become one as soon as we say ‘I do.’

Not really, especially when I am not comfortable with their individuality.

I’m not sure about that.

How Important do you believe trust is to a healthy marriage?

I must be able to trust my partner and vice versa.

Can you really trust the opposite sex?

Trust is not that important. Love is what matters.

Trust is important, but we can do without it once we have peace.

How do you feel about the balance between maintaining independence and being committed to each other in marriage?

It’s important to maintain individuality and personal space all the time.

I believe it’s important to have a healthy balance of independence while nurturing our bond.

I would want to be very close and involved in everything my partner does, sometimes at the expense of my independence.

I think being completely dedicated to my partner is essential, even if it means less personal freedom.

Does the way your partner treats other people matter to you?

Yes, how my partner treats other people tells me a lot about how they will eventually treat me.

I’m not sure it does.

No. What matters is how they treat me.

I don’t think that is my business.

What are your thoughts on setting boundaries with your family?

I believe my spouse and I decide what we do with extended family because my spouse comes first.

I don’t think I need to set boundaries with my family. They are welcome to do what they want in my marriage.

I cannot do without telling my parents/siblings everything happening to me (including in my marriage).

My parents were there before my spouse, so I’ll always put them first.

11 out of 16

How important is it for you (when married) to have clear boundaries with your ex-partners?

I think keeping some kind of friendship with an ex is fine.

I don’t see the need for rigid boundaries as long as things are clear with my partner.

I think it’s important to have clear boundaries and minimal contact with someone I once had a relationship with.

To respect my spouse, I prefer to cut all communications with my exes once married.

Do you have friends or a supportive community outside your intended marriage environment?

Not really; I don’t have friends, but I’m hoping my spouse will be my solid support system.

Yes, I have a community of super supportive friends.

I have many besties of the opposite sex who will remain besties even after I am married.

Not much, I have a few friends, but I’m not too committed to them.

So, it’s Friday evening, and you and your spouse already have a culture of going on dates every Friday. But your friends decide to schedule a meet-up that clashes with your date. What are you likely to do?

I’ll meet up with the girls/boys. My spouse can understand.

I’ll ask my spouse to combine our date with the meet up so I don’t miss any.

I honestly wouldn’t know what to do.

I’ll turn down the meet-up. My marriage first.

What are your thoughts on boundaries with the opposite sex?

I know I must keep interactions with the opposite sex transparent, moderate, and strictly for business (if the person isn’t a mutual friend of my spouse).

I don’t mind having best friends of the opposite sex, even while married.

What I do with the opposite sex should be none of my spouse’s business.

My spouse should trust me no matter how I interact with people of the opposite sex.

Which of these sounds like your opinion on boundaries and boundary setting?

I have boundaries, and I also respect other people’s boundaries - irrespective of who they are.

I don’t think a couple needs to set boundaries between themselves.

I don’t mind keeping to my spouse’s boundaries as long as they don’t hurt me.

People who set boundaries are usually mean and unfriendly.

12 out of 16

Why do you want to get married?

I’m old enough to be married and have kids.

I want to do life and purpose with someone.

I’ve been looking forward to my big day all my life.

All my friends are already married. I don’t like being the odd one.

Which definition of marriage resonates with you the most?

Marriage is a covenant institution established by God.

Marriage is a stage of life; you get married when you reach a certain age.

Marriage is something you commit to when it is convenient. When it is not, you can check out.

Marriage is more advantageous to one gender than it is to the other.

What is the most important thing you are looking out for in your future spouse?

They must be good in bed.

They must have a good height and be really good-looking.

They must be financially wealthy.

They must have a sense of commitment and be covenant-minded.

Do you believe you can recognize red flags in a potential spouse?

Absolutely. I’d know when I see what I do not want in a spouse.

There are no such things as red flags. There will always be something to deal with in your partner.

I’m not sure I’m worried about red flags as long as my partner loves me.

Not really, I may need others to show me red flags in a potential partner.

Are you ready to prioritize your marriage relationship above your individual desires?

Only if my partner is deserving of it.

Why would I put someone else above myself? I need to take care of myself to show up in the relationship.

Not all the time. Sometimes, I will definitely fulfill my own desires first.

Yes, especially if the matter at hand may be critical for my partner.

How willing are you to keep the flames of love burning your marriage?

Do we need to work on that? Does it not keep burning naturally?

Only when I have enough time for that.

I am willing to do my best at all times to keep the flame of love burning in my home.

Only if my partner is actively doing their part.

13 out of 16

Do you have a vision for your marriage in the next five years, and are you currently taking steps to adequately contribute your quota?

I’m working on myself, but I really do not have any vision for my marriage.

I’m only planning towards my big day. Anything after that will take care of itself.

Yes, I do. I’m also working on myself to see that I contribute my part towards the vision.

I honestly don’t have any concrete vision for my marriage.

What are your predominant thoughts about love in marriage?

I believe that once I fall in love with my spouse, I will always love them.

I believe that once we love each other, everything else will work out fine.

I believe that love in marriage will be a daily choice and commitment beyond fleeting emotions.

Yes. Once I love someone, and I see that they love me too, then we are good to go.

Are you ready to commit to your partner for life, regardless of circumstances?

Nope. I have so many deal breakers.

Maybe.

Yes, I’m ready for better, for worse, except there’s violence.

It depends on my partner.

How do you envision sharing household responsibilities after marriage?

I’ll hire help for household tasks.

I think the partner who is better at certain tasks should take the lead.

I think both partners should equally contribute to household tasks.

I believe the woman should be responsible for most of the housework.

When the time comes, will you be open to discussing your sexual needs and boundaries with your spouse?

I believe good sex will eventually happen, whether we talk about it or not.

Yes, I hope to be able to communicate my sexual needs with my spouse as occasion demands.

Not really.

Are we to discuss that?

14 out of 16

What does your relationship with God look like?

Well, I attend church every Sunday and pay my offerings.

I have a solid relationship with God. I commune with Him all the time.

My relationship with God is a bit distant. I barely have time to pray and study my Bible.

I don’t have any relationship with God.

What role do you believe God should play in your choice of a spouse?

Well, God can tell me what He wants for my marriage, but I believe I am in a better place to choose who I marry.

I believe I should marry who God reveals as the person or the kind of person He wants me to marry. He knows me best.

Well, if I like someone, I can tell God to approve of them for me.

I don’t believe God has anything with my choice of a spouse. I will marry whoever I want.

How willing are you to heed the voice of God concerning an action He would want you to take in your marriage, even when it will be uncomfortable or illogical?

I am willing to do what God says. I know He wants the best for me, even when it doesn’t feel so.

I’m a bit willing, maybe not all the time.

I don’t even know what it is like to hear God.

I think I will obey if it will not stress or discomfort me so much.

Do you see marriage as a means to spiritual growth and holiness rather than a means to attain personal happiness alone?

Honestly, my marriage and spouse should always make me happy.

What business has marriage and holiness?

I’m not sure.

Yes. I’m willing to let God use my marriage to help me grow and become more like Him, even though this may not always be palatable.

How ready are you to honor the covenant of marriage?

How is marriage really a covenant?

I am ready, but only when my spouse does the same.

At least 90%. I understand that God values the marriage covenant, and I am ready to honor it.

Quite ready, but I am ready to walk away when things don’t feel right.

How willing are you to sacrificially lead and love your wife (as a man) and fully submit to your husband’s leadership (as a woman)?

I will love my wife, provided she submits to me.

I will submit to my husband only when I see how much he loves me.

I am not sure I can totally submit to another human being. People are unpredictable.

I know sacrificial loving and leading (for a man) and total submission (for a woman) will not be easy, but I trust God to help me.

15 out of 16

Do you believe it is important to discuss your views on religion and spirituality with your partner?

It depends on my partner.

It is good to discuss spirituality if the discussion ever comes up.

Yes, our views on spirituality will be top on the list of things we should discuss.

I don’t think that discussion is very important as long as we can live peacefully.

Is it important that your partner shares your faith?

They can believe whatever they want. Spirituality is not my problem.

Not necessarily, as long as they do not disrespect my faith.

Maybe, but I don’t mind converting to their faith if they are serious about marriage.

Absolutely! I cannot marry someone who does not share my Christian faith and isn’t born again.

How well do you currently allow God to point out your shortcomings and character flaws to you for improvement?

I yield to God as much as I can and repent when He points out a flaw to me.

I love to live my life on my terms most of the time.

I don’t know how to hear God.

Sometimes, I listen to my conscience when it pricks me about something I’ve done. Other times, I just ignore it.

Are you open to spiritual mentorship and accountability in your marital journey?

Yes, if my partner prefers to have any.

It depends on how our marriage turns out.

I already have spiritual mentors and leaders overseeing my life. My partner must have one as well.

No. I don’t need anybody to tell me how to do my marriage.

What are your thoughts about serving your spouse?

I will only serve my spouse if they are ready to serve me.

I will serve my spouse as long as I have the time.

I believe my answer will depend on how my partner behaves.

I’ll selflessly serve my spouse, knowing that it is my worship to God.

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